How to scare a girl in ten ways1. Send her the following sms: “what makes you feel alive?”, when you don’t know her that well.
2. Continue to send her smses when she’s only a couple of feet away from you, until she has to tell you to stop it.
3. Say, “isn’t this romantic?” more than once when you’re just having a drink together.
4. Take lots of photos of her.
5. Tell her that you’ve been naughty and that you’ve been looking her up on the internet.
6. List out all the websites that she’s been on, including a complete description of her photos (damn these internships/conferences).
7. Invite her for dinner through sms AFTER you’ve seen her in person about five minutes ago.
8. Thank her profusely for spending time with you, through sms of course. Well, ok this isn’t so bad but the long sms about how wonderful I was, what a good heart I have, if I need anything, please don’t hesitant to ask, makes me rather nervous when we’re just supposed to be friends. I get nervous when male friends become mushy.
9. Send her smses littered with “chat talk”. For example: “U R full of Life”. Smses are no excuse to sound illiterate!
10. Send her a sms, saying that she’s full of life (U R full of Life) and it’s so easy for men to fall in love with her.
Ok, ok, maybe some items on the list isn’t so bad, and could be construed as rather romantic (I guess) but when the attention is not mutual, it makes the recipient really antsy.
Yeah, recipient of “How to Scare a Girl in Ten Ways” is me. Wooooo….
I had my suspicions for a while but was assured by my friends that I was just being perasan (how to explain.. that it’s just in my head, nothing’s going on). Item #10 finally convinced them – I think. What the hell, it doesn’t matter. I’m kicking myself for not trusting my instincts and believing someone else’s (as much as I love them) opinion instead. Maybe then, I wouldn’t have accepted his invitation for dinner (I downgraded it to tea only) that night, and him later on sending me mushy smses, that ultimately culminated to item #10. Eerrk!
He’s just not my type. I know, I know, we’ve all gone down this road with me but seriously, I’m just not interested. He’s too… sappy: too touchy-feely with his feelings. He’s so self-effacing, to a point where it’s actually annoying. He’d send me an apologetic sms for making a really good chess move for a game that was played the day before (but I later kicked his butt after that move – hah). Give me a ‘me, Tarzan, you, Jane’ type any day. Heee..
Well, seriously, I rather like the challenge of someone who is willing to argue with me (but also with the humility to accept that they could be wrong). I like someone who tells me as it is, and isn’t so mushy to me all the time. A manly man, that’s what I want. Not so much on the touchy-feely emotions - I don’t need another girlfriend.
In any case, any guy who tells me that they’ve been naughty because they’ve been looking me up on the internet, and then proceeds to describe in detail about the online published photographs of me, is a NO-GO. I can’t emphasize enough. No way, Jose. Hit the road, Jack. Keep on going to Creepsville (oh, he’s actually a really nice guy, but he’s trying too hard).
What’s another no-go? Any readers of this blog. I need space, I don’t want to date someone who’s read my blog or alternatively, has a blog of his own.
So where do I go from here? I have to tell him that I’m not interested, and will never be so please don’t hang around hoping, because I know I won’t change my mind. I wish I have the option of running away and never hearing from him again (re: Bali) but ah well.
I’d like to meet a nice boy one day but it’s probably going to be a loooooong period before that day arrives (my job doesn’t allow me to get out much). And you know what; I’m ok with that because there’s still so much I’d like to do on my own. And he’d be the one when I don’t feel smothered nor have an urge to run away. Now, if I can properly deal with the unrequited amours.