When guys try too hardI’ve had discussions about this before with my girlfriends – about guys who try too hard, too fast, and end up being Mr. Scary Potentially Stalker Kind of Guy. Just when I think that I've met them all, another guy comes along to prove that there are more clueless guys out there.. Therefore, I am only blogging the following as a public service on what NOT to do when you're interested in a chick. (Hee.. it's also kinda funny)
Yesterday, I was approached by this guy who said I looked so familiar and asked whether I’ve been on tv.
“You know, NTV??”
“No, no.. NTV7.”
He then rapidly fired personal questions about where I was really from (WHY does everyone ask me this? I’m LOCAL lah), where I lived (yeah right), what I did for a living, the ubiquitous local question of “what race are you?”, etc.. etc..
“I would really like to get to know you better – let’s go have drinks!”
“Err.. no. I have to be somewhere right now” (anywhere but here, buddy).
“Can I have your phone number? What’s your phone number?”
*a bit speechless* “Look, I don’t know you – I don’t just give out my phone numbers to anybody.”
“Ohh.. don’t be scared of me. I’m more afraid of you!”
Oh, please. I wasn’t afraid of him – for one thing, he was slightly shorter than I was. I could totally take him on. Anyway, I just found him really annoying!!
He did everything wrong, methinks. So here’s some advice for the guys out there: if you like a girl, don’t rush things man. Take time to get to know the girl and don’t fire off questions like it’s an interview on the VERY FIRST meeting.
Believe me, if an Orlando Bloom look-alike committed the same offense, I would still be turned off, and rather freaked out.
Although I do sympathize with guys (AND girls) out there who are looking for that special someone. Maybe it’s just me but I think living in this town is especially hard to meet someone that you could connect with, romantically or even platonically. I’m not claiming to have all the answers on how a guy should successfully woo a girl although I pretty much know what works for me and buddy, THAT didn’t work for me.
Points for effort but meh, better luck next time.
Oh, the Flirt Blog is interesting – go read. Bwaa ha haa.. it has a link to a woman’s experience of speed-dating. Needless to say, I WON’T be doing that EVER again. *shudder*